Inside this post: 4 habits of happy moms and how a simple routine and mindset changes can help you enjoy motherhood and model happiness for your kids.
How to Be a Happier Mom – Four Strategies for Happy Days
Do you even find yourself watching those Happy, Joyful Moms and wondering what in the heck is going on in their life?
These moms are smiling, laughing, playing with their kids and having the time of their life. They are picture-perfect moms.
And maybe, watching them makes you second guess your own mom journey. Maybe it makes you feel crappy.
You may find yourself asking, “Where did I go wrong? Why can’t I be a happy mom like her?”
Does this sound like you? Been there? I have. But I’ve done a lot of reading and self-work to try and be a better mom. And I’ll say this. I don’t think being a happy mom is being a perfect mom.
Happy Moms: What’s Their Secret?
First of all, perfect moms don’t exist. They’re unicorns.
But secondly, happiness is an inside job. Those moms don’t have anything you don’t have or can’t get. You just have to shift your perspective and mindset.
If you struggle with feeling like a happy mom, these tips can help you be the happy mom you want to be.
What is Happiness?
Happiness is a sensation of well-being, joy, or contentment. And while joy may be a harder state to achieve, why does it seem hard to feel even content or a state of well-being?
To me, being a happy mom is about being real and authentic. It’s being in the moment with your children and yourself. It’s appreciating the good in your life, practicing self-care, and giving yourself grace.
Yes. We all want to be good moms and better moms. But what about being a happy mom?
Maybe being a happy mom leads to being a better mom. Because if we aren’t happy, not only are we missing out on loving our lives more, but we’re not showing our kids how to be happy, either.
We should be examples to our children on how to be happy in life. We can show them that being happy isn’t necessarily about the big house, the six-figure income, and the material things.
Being happy is a state of being. We want to raise happy kids, right? Well Mamas, happiness in your family starts with you.
Our kids will be happier when we are happier.
For many of us mons, parenting is such a blessing. It fills our heart.
So why do we struggle with happiness? What happens? And why does happiness feel elusive for some of us?
Here’s my opinion: We struggle with feeling happy because we struggle with perfection. Somewhere, somehow, we got the message that we are supposed to be perfect. And perfection = happiness.
We are overwhelmed and frustrated. Sometimes, life can throw us curveballs that smack us in the face. And then, on top of all that, we compare ourselves to everyone else.
So often, we are looking outside of ourselves instead of inside ourselves for happiness.
When the truth is, we have the power to create our happiness. We hold the key to our happiness mindset.
How Can I Be a Happier Mom?
One way to becoming a happier mom is to establish a morning routine for a healthy mindset.
It’s pretty simple and straightforward, yet so easy to push aside.
A good morning routine can help us focus, feel more organized, and optimistic. A happy-focused morning routine can set the tone for the entire day. Not only that, it can help foster happiness within our family.
Again, when we are happy moms, we teach our children how to be happy.
Interested in how to be a happier mom? Here are four simple tips to start creating a positive, happy mom morning routine.
Happy Moms Get Good Sleep
Do you wake up feeling tired and grumpy? Try getting more sleep.
Yes, that’s stating the obvious. And yes, you may be in a hard phase with a newborn or littles that struggle with sleeping through the night.
To that, I say, “This too, shall pass.” I feel you, and you may want to do some research with articles like this on how to get more sleep when you have a newborn.
But to moms who are past this stage: you need to be getting your zzzzs!
If you don’t get enough sleep, you start your day feeling irritated and drained.
How can you maintain a positive outlook if you don’t have enough energy to get through the day?
A good night’s sleep is essential for maintaining overall health and well-being. Sleep is vital for managing stress and building a sense of happiness in your life.
Happy Moms Smile More
Smile! Sure, we tend to smile when we are already happy. But what if we actively smiled at other times, too? Have you tried it? Making an intentional effort to smile often?
When we smile, our brain releases dopamine, which can make us feel happier.
A smile can easily trick your brain into believing that you are feeling happy. Smiling on purpose can then spur your brain to generate actual feelings of happiness.
So give it a try. Intentionally smile throughout the day. Even if you are one of those “Resting B Face” people. Actively smile at other people, your kids, or even yourself. You’ll be surprised at how it can lift your mood.
Happy Moms Practice Gratitude
Waking up with a grateful heart will help you start your day in good spirits. A thankful heart is a happy heart.
Actively thinking about what you are grateful for activates positive feelings. Once you get into the habit of practicing gratitude, it’s easy to do and has long-lasting benefits for physical and mental health.
When you wake up each day, feel a swell of appreciation for everything around you.
Take time to recognize the good things in your life with a quick list of 3 – 5 things you are grateful for each morning. You can make a mental note of these things, or jot them down in a Gratitude Journal.
Happy Moms Meditate
Happier moms meditate – or practice mindfulness. Doing this first thing in the morning can help create a contented and happy mind by checking in with how you are feeling mentally and physically.
A meditation or mindful practice can improve focus, increase self-esteem and enhance confidence.
You can meditate at any time of the day, but meditating in the morning helps you to make the most out of your morning routine.
Creating a Happy Mom Routine
So those are four strategies to be a happy mom. But how do you start implementing them? With a plan.
Because if you’re like me, you tend to forget about your new plans even with the best of intentions.
Download this Happy Mom Mini-Planner so you can track and plan your happiness habits. It’s free!